Booking a Gay Massage: Complete Guide

Gay massage is a type of massage specifically designed for gay men. It is performed by a male masseur and can be found in a variety of settings, including gay parlours and discreet spas and massage places.

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If you are looking for a Gay Massage we’ve got your back.

Our guide to gay male massage etiquette is based on advice from therapists in our network, and it covers everything you need to know before, during, and after your massage to make sure you’re fully prepared.

Booking the right masseur can be challenging, so we’ve compiled some helpful tips to help you find the perfect gay massage therapist for you.

Once you’ve found the perfect masseur, it’s essential to know how to behave before the massage. So, let’s go over some good practices together to make sure everything goes smoothly.

If you’re interested in finding a gay massage but don’t know where to start or are feeling nervous, we are here to help. We’ll provide you with everything you need to know to make an informed decision and have a positive experience.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Getting the Perfect Gay Massage

Do – Book Early

Don’t leave it to the last minute!

Book your session in advance to give your massage therapist the time they need to be ready for you. A massage should be relaxing so don’t make the start a mad rush. They may have time available perhaps a sudden cancellation but only take this if you really NEED it.

Don’t cancel last minute.

If you cancel without any warning your therapist is probably going to be left with an empty slot and loss of income.

Realise that though you are buying a service you are buying it from someone (a human just like you), if you do cancel last minute think about paying for the session anyway.

Do – Ask for Pictures 

If you want to have a massage from someone you find attractive and clean there is no harm in wanting to see the goods in advance.

If what you want is someone with big strong hands then you should be able to know that too. A massage is a physical experience, ask for photos.

If what you see doesn’t show you what you want then feel free to ask for more and be honest about why you want them. It’s important you feel good about your experience and you are getting the right man for the job.

You will also show the massage therapist that they need to update their photos if they are not doing the job.

Do – Take a Shower

You are going to have someone rub your body, make it pleasant for them.

Taking a warm shower will also loosen you up and open your pores for the massage oils to be easier absorbed so you can really get the benefit from the massage.

Some masseurs will allow you to shower at their studio.

Do – Arrive a bit early

10 minutes early is about right. You want time to relax, use the restroom, (shower if possible) and get comfortable with the space.

It’s better to be early than late. Being late will put pressure on your therapists and yourself to meet your needs and ultimately distract from the experience.

He wants to please, let him.

Do – Keep Your Phone on Silent

Unplug, relax and let go. If you have to keep up to date with something on your phone then it’s just going to take away from your experience.

It’s important to be and remain present and that is very difficult with a constant chime or buzz.

Do – Undress as Much as You are Comfortable

The masseur will typically leave you to undress to your underwear or down to the nude.

Once you’re on the table, he will ask to come back in and (likely) “drape” a towel over your bum.

Undress as much as you feel comfortable. If that’s underwear on or off or even if you want to keep your t-shirt on. But remember the masseur may always put a towel on top of you to be keep hidden whatever part of you you require.

Nudity is no big deal for the masseur but it might be for you.

Just have a genuine conversation with any gay massage therapist, and he’ll help with all your concerns about being naked. It’s easier to massage you the more skin they have access too.

Do – Feel Free to Tip

You don’t have too. In fact your masseur will have decided upon their price very carefully and will not be remotely offended if you don’t tip.

Do – Communicate

Feel free to have a chat before you get started. Your masseur might ask you a few questions anyway and it will help you both feel more connected and help you let go.

It’s important that you communicate with your masseur to say what feels good and what doesn’t. Just be honest about what you want, pressure, areas and exactly how you want things to go.

It is your massage.

Do – Tell the Masseur What You Thought

The best case scenario is a long-lasting relationship with a gay masseur who knows how your body works and is someone you can trust.

If the pressure is too much or little, you have certain problem areas, you enjoyed some of what they did more than others tell them!

And why stop there. Pass it on online with a stellar rating and review.

Reviews help your gay therapist and attract new clients.

Don’t – Turn up Sick

If you are feeling under the weather just sit your session out, get healthy again and reschedule.

If you cause your masseur to get sick, they can’t work and before they know it they can pass it on to all of their clients.

We draw the line at gratuitous reasons. If you just want to see anything 18+ then you are not in the right place. A Masseur is not an escort nor should be treated as one.

But if you feel the masseur went the extra mile tip what feels right.

10 – 20% is a good rule of thumb.

Don’t – Try to Get A Deal

A heads up on prices or rates is great.

Requesting a discounted rate is not the one.

Massage Therapists earn their money through plentiful experience and providing a premium experience. If you are getting a massage from the same masseur every day then you might want to broach the question, otherwise keep it to yourself.

You are only going to make both of you uncomfortable.

The Price is the Price. But you are not buying a product but a service. Just like in a high class restaurant if you feel like your experience was greater than what you paid for then feel free to show it with a tip.

Don’t – Ask for sex

All our masseurs are highly trained or licensed professionals and are here to provide premium therapeutic services. If what you want is just to get off, Gay Massage isn’t right for you.

Our masseurs take pride in their craft and are here to help you relax and unwind in style.

If you find yourself aroused and want more, remember that a listened masseur can loose their licence if they “help you” with that.

Don’t – eat, drink, or smoke

Before your massage starts, be kind to your body to ensure you get the most out of your session. It’s best to avoid eating a large meal right before your massage since the physical pressure can be intense.

However, make sure to stay hydrated, but avoid drinking too much water just before as it may interrupt your session.

Keep the cigarettes out, the massage can accelerate the absorption of toxins into your body and the smell of smoke can be unpleasant to your therapist and upset the relaxing atmosphere they’re trying to create.

Alcohol or drugs are also a no, as you will be numbing your body for the experience.

Don’t – Worry about your Body Reacting Naturally

You are supposed to be letting go of control. Your body will act however it wants to and your Massage therapists are experienced, and know how to deal with all of this and keep you feeling comfortable.

Don’t worry about passing gas during a massage, your therapist will ignore it.

If you have a lots of gas, or need to excuse yourself, do.

If you fall asleep? Great.

An erection?

Just let it be, you haven’t offended anyone, so nothing to worry about and the masseur will be the same. 

A masseur works with bodies all year round, they will be more empathetic to you than almost anyone else.

With this you now know how to move forward with your male massage therapist and get the best gay massage possible. 

By following these simple do’s and don’t you will be able to ensure that you both can feel comfortable and that you get the most out of your best gay massage.

And as a final takeaway, communicate. Don’t be afraid to ask and do say whatever is on your mind.

And when you have a wonderful experience this might turn into man, many more over the years to come. But it all began with that first great gay massage.

We also invite you to check out our Gay Masseurs in other cities.

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